Forgiving, letting go and moving on: Part III

Forgiving is changing our thoughts fowards our past. To release the past we must be willing to forgive.

The person I needed to forgive is_________ and I forgive you for ______________.

I've done a few forgiving exercises over the past few weeks by writing the above.. such a powerful exercise, emotional and yet so rewarding. I thought I had forgiven all those who creeped up in my thoughts but I guess there are a few occasions that came up to the surface lately. Some of it are events I've totally forgotten and for it to come up means I've been harbouring it inside me causing pain and discomfort.

I forgive myself. I forgive you. Thank you and I set you free.

Email response

A few of my friends have responded asking me if I blame them or the elders for my disappointments judging from how I phrased my words.

Seriously, what would blaming do? Solve the situation? Make things better? Heal my scars? Blaming is useless according to Louise Hay. It gives away our power. I neither blame anyone nor want to make anyone responsible or accountable for what I went through. The past is done. Nothing can change it. A wise nun told a dear friend of mine this :

We cannot change the past but we can learn from our past.